“You never really know the true impact you have on those around you. You never know how much someone needed that smile you gave them. You never know how much your kindness turned someone’s entire life around. You never know how much someone needed that long hug or deep talk. So don’t wait to be kind. Don’t wait for someone else to be kind first. Don’t wait for better circumstances or for someone to change. Just be kind, because you never know how much someone needs it.
As carers, we have a sacred responsibility when we step into the energy field of a vulnerable client because we have the power to not only manipulate their vibrations and upgrade their feelings but leave them in a safe space of wanting more…
I love working with couples and this placement enabled me to experience the discord that is inevitable when two people who have been together for over 65years, acknowledge deep down, that things will never be the same again. Even though their love remains embedded in their souls – ‘disease’ has inflicted their physical lives.
Mary’s physical and emotional faculties had been compromised – her movement is dependent on hoisting and manual handling, and conversations are limited and sometimes non-sensical. I can never truly understand her thought processes but an inclusive, loving, kind approach with unspoken gestures is almost always rewarded with a ‘cheeky, appreciative smile’ –
Wilson, on the other hand, is a strong capable 90-year-old but his pain is an unseen affliction, the torment of seeing his beautiful wife deteriorate and doing his best to remain the steady, caring, attentive husband while his heart cries out for company and social upliftment. Alcohol has become his comfort and he continues to hold on to his independence and reckless approach to his declining mobility.
In our profession, it is very easy to get caught up in lower vibrations but the practice is to not allow ourselves to diminish and compromise our own energy by joining others where they are operating from but rather allowing our vibration to become so contagious that they cannot help but want to join us at that elevated sweet spot.
How did I do that? I practised the art of being the observer – I remained steady and diplomatic – present with an elevated vibration. Stepping into the role of the observer is like turning on a switch that allows your soul to be an essential part of the information-gathering and decision-making process. In this way, I could approach things from a more neutral and nonjudgemental place.
After all, I was only ‘passing through’, but I do believe that we can manipulate the energy in the home and lead by example. As a vibrationally astute being, I knew that the impact of ‘that which is unseen’ is way more powerful than any physical changes that I could have introduced into the current care package-
The intensity of the work was real and as time passed I realized that the family was struggling to come to terms with the situation, uncomfortable with the rapid decline in health and incapable of loving interactions – the virus and social distancing had also escalated the inability for meaningful, tactile visits.
I know that we can all be a bit like the weather – our emotions and feelings are frequently changing with daily events, but to remain constant we need to be a bit more like the climate, a long term pattern that continues over a period of time – a consequent mood that reactivates rather than reacts to current circumstances –
I was indeed blessed by this interaction – touched by two beautiful souls who still affectionately hold hands at night despite a day full of personal demands, difficult interactions and strained conversations – love truly does endure as we remember
‘That which is real never changes’