From Recruit to Soldier – From Ego to Soul – It Seems The Army Is a Good Place to Transition

There’s no doubt that the British Army transformed my son in a massively positive way.

This is a Mother’s perspective and message to aspiring new soldiers and those who work so hard at the Army Training Centres.

Some while ago it was my eldest’s British Army ‘passing out ceremony’the completion of Phase 1 Basic Training, and the transition to Phase 2 and his elective career as a Combat Medical Technician with the Royal Army Medical Corps.

I have no words to express the immense pride that was palpable on the parade ground – an overwhelming sense of belonging to a community of friends and families whose lives have also been enriched through the transformation of these incredible young men and women.

(What I felt came as a bit of surprise as I had always been a bit sceptical about the army, like so many who have little experience with the armed forces community, although I knew he was in a way well prepared – see the link at the end of this post).

Feeling included is a source of great strength and fortitude, and these recruits have experienced a togetherness, a knowingness that ‘who you are’ is measured by how you make others feel.

They have stepped out of a self-centric life and moved towards an adopted soul-centric mindset – a gradual realization that they are no longer the centre of their Universe but the very essence of the Universe itself.

The impulse to discover and explore, an opportunity for something better, is how some transcended doubt and the fear of the unknown into freedom, and appreciation.

Friendships have been forged through adversity and the feeling of cooperation, as opposed to competition, seems to be an unspoken truth, a ‘selfless power’ integrated into their very souls.

My sons’ section genuinely cared for each other, a quality that is undeniably at the heart of being human.

The very act of creating a safe space for each other allows for vulnerability, humility and healing, in an environment and culture steeped in the traditions of competency, determination, and a high level of performance.

Learning to respond to the need of others but at the same time welcoming the stirring of emotions of one’s soul is a rewarding exchange.

Without even knowing it the assimilation of events has initiated an informal opportunity to transcend the body and enjoy the power of collective consciousness – where offering support becomes instinctual and coordinated efforts to enhance the overall experience.

‘What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined…to strengthen each other…to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories’ George Elliot

These young adults have turned their focus away from themselves and poured it into others.  It’s an important quality because even when we are facing personal challenges the chances are that someone else has a burden far greater than our own.

It’s not about us, it’s about the people we serve – a careful balance between the skills learned and the human aspect of experience and reflection

A so my message to my son and all the other new soldiers:

When we leave the mind and enter the realm of the soul then it is no longer events that bring about our reality but pure awareness.

In such a short time you have grown in confidence and sub-consciously acknowledged your sacred responsibility to trust in the wisdom of your soul.

As you move into your chosen field always remain centred in your heart and may your soul’s agenda continue to flow in the direction of ‘love’ – a love of self, love of others, and love of life.


My feelings have changed about the army, and at the start of my son’s’ journey deep in my heart I always knew he was well prepared and would be ok – here’s what I wrote back then .

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