A Carer’s Perspective on Saying Goodbye – A Life Changing Experience

Picking up regular clients, my growth and experience in the care industry hit a plateau and I eased into a comfort zone – that place where dreams supposedly go to die! It, however, suited me to trade skills development for spiritual expansion, and subtly explore the art of embracing situations differently. Work was flexible and I had space and freedom to balance quality alone time without neglecting my responsibilities as a carer.

Caring for the aged inevitably means that at some point in time I would be faced with dealing with death.

It is hard not to fall in love with and remain emotionally detached to those that we devote our time to – what makes it easier to accept their passing is dependent on our own personal thoughts about death, and the lead up to that.

Family and friends may see their loved one as being depressed but often I think this is confused with emotional and spiritual pain – a time when people lose a sense of meaning or purpose in life. They may begin to reflect on their past and, in doing so, sometimes ask themselves difficult questions about life and its meaning. Spirituality can be very important to a person at the end of their life, even if they do not follow a religion. In my experience, which is by no means extensive, I learnt that I didn’t always need to have an answer. I tried to leave room for listening, contemplation and stillness.

On 16th  August I said goodbye to an incredible soul who had touched my life in so many ways. It was a beautiful experience and I felt so privileged to be there with him as he made his transition into the non-physical…

I felt  empowered and privileged because I  believed that

You don’t become a spirit when you die – You already ARE a spirit – right here and now – Whilst on earth you also have a body and a soul – Take time to be still and listen to your higher self – The YOU that is connected at all times to Source – That’s who you truly are – A magnificent being of energy, light and love

Through this emotional turmoil, I understood the selfless contribution that carers make in the service of humanity.

Caring to me was no longer a means to an end but rather a means to a loving interaction with all those beautiful souls that are an extension of source.

I still care now because I want to make a difference in the lives of as many individuals as possible and spread love among a population that are in need, in pain or facing any other adversity.